Seek first to understand, then to be understood!

Have you ever zoned out during a conversation with someone and either had to cover it up with some vague reply when he/she stopped talking or had to admit that you had not heard what was just said and embarrassingly asked the person to repeat it?

Most of us have had this happen and one time or another. It happens and we can generally recognize that it has happened. There is another way that communication breaks down though during the hearing process and this second way is not always as easy to recognize.

Sometimes we hear what is being said, but we are not listening with the intent of understanding. Maybe  we are hearing just enough of what is being said to formulate our own reply or maybe we are making assumptions about what is being said based on our own experiences. site generator . Habit 5 in Steven Covey’s book, “7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” tells us, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” This is great advice from Dr. Covey.

So much of our lives involve interactions with other people, so it only makes sense that to be successful in life, we need to actively listen so that we can truly understand what other people are telling us. The problem is that this skill like many others does not come naturally to most of us. Most of us seek to be understood, rather than the other way around.

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